Chivalry and Adab
Adab (good manners) are the foundation of chivalry and are essential qualities on the path to peace and self development. Adab means to treat people with courtesy and politeness, to be refined in your actions and humble in your speech and also to be respectful of your elders and teachers. It means to be helpful to others beyond your own needs.
If you have good manners you greatly lessen your chances of getting into fights. Good manners are contagious and help foster politeness and ease in your everyday life. Some of the good manners we encourage are common sense and some are aspects of the Indo-Malay culture from which Pencak Silat came.
As an adjunct to your physical training we encourage all students to use good manners when at the school or at school events and to let these habits spread to your daily life. In this way students of Gerakan Suci will be known not only as proficient martial artists, but as polite and humble citizens.
A martial arts school must have a well-developed etiquette and sense of ethics in order to provide a safe and supportive training environment. We have developed the Open Circle Academy as a family environment. We encourage our students to treat the teachers as your father and mother and each other as though they were brothers and sisters, or as if they were all living in the same small village. We especially want the Academy to be a safe and supportive place for women to train, as this is not stressed enough in the martial arts.
It is essential that new students be treated with the same courtesy as long-time members, if not more, as we wish for them to find the Academy to be a safe place to learn. It is considered the height of disrespect for Academy members to intimidate, harass, make sexual advances, or victimize other students. This includes using excessive force in exercises or unwanted flirtation. Those who haze others will be expelled from the school with prejudice, and will forfeit all dues and fees.
Dating among students is discouraged in the strongest possible terms. We have seen over the years that dating between students can often produce unpleasant stresses for the entire school. While we will never stand in the way of true love and know that it is possible to meet your “soul-mate” here, we respectfully suggest that it is more likely that you meet him or her at a dance class or your preferred religious gathering. It should go without saying that dating between teachers and students is also discouraged as it is a violation of the basic level of trust for all concerned.